Busola Dakolo accuses Pst.Fatoyinbo Biodun of rape

As a story that is still roaring in the social media now. Busola Dakola who is the lawful wedded wife of Timi Dakolo announces to the media that she was raped by pst.Fatoyinbo Biodun.
the story states that the alleged pastor of COZA(Common wealth of Zion) was a very good friend of the family. The story states that Busolas' mother actually decided to parent her daughter Busola with this spiritual man of God as the Father of Busola. Fatoyinbo was always informed of all the dealings of the family. He always knew when the family will be in church or not. This happened on Monday when the Fatoyinbo raped Busola. She also said that it continued to happen.

The point in trying to make is that this issue of rape has to be stopped. The government needs to to make sure of upholding the punishment pf all these rapists. People coming out now so that their voices can be heard. Busola Dakolo has led the way and so now the others who as been raped for no just course by their guardians now have the right and shoe raise their voices so it can be heard. A protest of "enough is enough"has been set up so that those who had been raped can speak up.
The issue now is not about speaking out. The issue now is that will all these people who have been accuses and those that will soon be accused be punished?
When they come out to speak I'm very sure that most of them also wants this person to be punished. It's not just talking but also the fact that this people should be punished.
When a person is raped,it destroys the person psychologically and even emotionally. No matter how long this might have happened,it still will have an effect on your life except you have a very good relationship with God.

Being judgemental in your relationship is a very bad thing. For you to be in a relationship,you do not need to be the judge of your relationship be you the girl/boy in the relationship. We need to look into it today because this is what has broken some relationships today. For you to be in a relationship,it means you are mature and you are able to put things under control. Be it anger,jealousy or pride. Relationships are for matured minds and not just for those that thinks that they want to join the queue of people in a relationship. I will say a judgemental person is someone who reacts to something without even thinking of it before passing any judge. Being judgemental is not all that bad because it is our inner mind that is talking and making those decisions. But when you take it to the extreme without even thinking is when you become judgemental.   

HOW TO KNOW YOU ARE JUDGEMENTAL

• When you start getting annoyed at every little thing done by your partner .
• When you start getting jealous at every little thing which will make you always complain and judge.
• Your pride can make you judge mental at some stage in your relationship. You tend to always see the mistake of your partner than the ones he/she did well.
• When you decide to continue your relationship based on the past it mistakes of your partner which will always make you judge your partner with the mistakes he did in the past.
•  You are annoyed when he doesn't do what you want him to do. You need to understand that he can't be at your disposal at all time.
• You find out that you can't tolerate him because of a particular behavior he/she has. You must understand that in a relationship,you are meant to correct each others mistakes.
• You should also take note when you can't appreciate your partner for every little thing that he/she does for you. Nothing is too small to be appreciated in a relationship. You must appreciate your partner for everything he/she does for you instead of you complaining.
• If you don't trust your partner you should know that you are judgemental.

Does any of these feature resemble you in your relationship? Well nothing is spolt. Something can still be done.
WHAT TO DO IF YOU FIND OUT THAT YOU HAVE ANY OF THESE FEATURES IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

• Make sure to find out what the real matter is before you judge.
• Since its the relationship between the both of you,you should learn how to accept the messy part of your relationship.
• Before you judge your partner,try to be in his/her shoes to know why he/she had to take that step. Don't just jump into conclusion start judging.

It's not as if being judgemental is all that bad,but it has to be controlled by your inner self. Don't let it dominate you in your relationship as it might cause a breakup. Your partner might become fed up and decide not to continue with you. So be conscious.

You have your own thoughts about this topic,please do let us know by commenting in the comment box so others can also learn and view your thought.

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Still in the mode of fathers day. It's just a day after fathers day but they can and are still celebrated. Happy fathers day to all the fathers in the universe. And yes we won't forget also the upcoming fathers who their wife/ girlfriend is pregnant. Happy fathers day. Even if our fathers always look tough and as if they don't seem to care,but we must still give it to them because they still try their best to make earns meet for their family. We celebrate 🙌 them and wish them more to come and the grace to still continue to fend for their families.

We won't just be talking about how to make a relationship fun,but also what keeps a relationship stronger and firm.
But first I would like to thank my blog viewers. Those that always take their time to visit my blog. Most people ask themselve how they can make their relationship strong and last longer. Things will be mentioned here to help you cause they are my logics and it has helped me and is still helping me.

•   Best Friends: I didn't mention love first because truly speaking,friendship should come first. Make your partner your best friend first. I once heard from someone "that a relationship is not just about two lovers,but about two best friends who find each other lovely to become lovers". Make your partner your best friend and you will be free around each other.
•  Confidant: Your partner must be your first confidant. It's true that your mum should be your first confidant but when you get to that stage of being in a relationship,your confidant changes to your partner. After all one of the reasons for us being in a relationship is to be able to tell someone the weirdest things you can't tell your mum.
• Trust: For you to have being able to confide in your partner is because you trust the person. Trust is also the main ingredient or should I say the main material to building a strong relationship. Don't shift blames. If your partner tells you she was busy that was why she missed your call then believe her. You can't trust someone if you don't give the person the benefit of doubt. If she tells you yes then take it like that.
• Spiritual life : Yes!! This is also part of it. I'm a good evidence. It has really worked for me. Pray for your partner. Above everything in your relationship,put God first. Let him know about the plans you and your partner had. Put him in everything and what's more,always pray for your partner. If you want your relationship to last longer and stronger then you both need each others prayers. Anytime you pray,make sure to remember your partner. Your partner grows because of your help. So help each other both spiritually,psychologically,financially and even educationally.
• Love: Yes!! Love I shld say will be my last. Remember my first on the list?? Best friends. You must first be best friends. And remember I said,that best friends are those who find each other lovely to become lovers? Yes.. When you are able to become best of friends,I know you will first love him/her has a friend,but when you find your boyfriend/girlfriend in the person then the feeling changes to real love.

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                                                        I'm so happy😉😊 today you can't imagine. Guess what??. Ogbongematters.blogspot.com was also nominated as the best domestic abuse blog of the year.
 I also won the best blogger award. Hurray 🎇🎇. I'm so happy. I'm happy that I don't just post,but the little I post is been appreciated. I owe this awrd to my viewers who took their time to view my blog. I also Thank Almighty God for the grace and knowledge . I hope and pray for more awards in future. And yes,I also congratulate my fellow bloggers that we're given this same awrd. I pray 🙏 that this will not be the last. Congratulations 🎉 once again.